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Parent Communication Scripts

Five difficult conversations every SENCO faces. Starting points to adapt in your own voice, not lines to recite word for word.

The Initial Concern

First Contact

A teacher has flagged concerns. You need to call the parent before they hear it second-hand.

Suggested starting point

“Hi [Name], it's [Your Name] from [School]. I'm calling because [Teacher Name] and I have noticed a few things about [Child] recently that we'd like to discuss with you, nothing alarming, but we'd value your perspective. Could we arrange a brief meeting this week? I want to hear your observations first, and then we can talk about how we might support [Child] together.”

Tips

Lead with collaboration, not diagnosis
Ask for their observations first, they know their child best
Use ‘we’ not ‘I’, this is a team effort

Avoid: Don't say “we think your child has…” or use diagnostic labels. That's not your role in the first conversation.

The EHCP Request

Formal Process

A parent has requested an EHCP assessment. You need to explain the process honestly without discouraging them.

Suggested starting point

“Thank you for raising this, it shows how much you care about [Child]'s support. An EHCP assessment is a formal process that takes about 20 weeks. Before we apply, I'd like to make sure we've gathered all the evidence that shows [Child]'s needs and what we've already tried. Can we meet next week to go through the graduated response together? I'll bring [Child]'s provision map and assessment data, and you can tell me anything I've missed.”

Tips

Validate their advocacy, it's a strength, not a threat
Show you've already been working on this (graduated response evidence)
Be honest about timelines, under-promise, over-deliver

Avoid: Don't say “we don't think [Child] needs an EHCP” or make promises about outcomes you can't control.

The Complaint

Conflict

A parent is angry about provision not being delivered. They're threatening to escalate.

Suggested starting point

“I hear you, and I understand why you're frustrated. [Specific issue] should not have happened, and I take responsibility for that. Here's what I'm going to do to fix it by [specific date]: [action 1], [action 2]. I'd also like to meet with you and [Headteacher] next week to review [Child]'s provision map together and make sure nothing else is slipping. Your feedback is making us better.”

Tips

Acknowledge before defending, anger needs to be heard first
Be specific about fixes and deadlines, not vague promises
Invite scrutiny, it shows confidence and transparency

Avoid: Don't blame staffing, budget, or “the system.” Parents don't care about your constraints, they care about their child.

The Annual Review

Routine

You need to invite parents to an EHCP annual review and set expectations positively.

Suggested starting point

“Hi [Name], it's time for [Child]'s annual EHCP review, and I'd love to hear how you think the year has gone. We'll look at what's working, what might need adjusting, and whether [Child]'s targets still feel right. The meeting is [date/time] and will last about an hour. I've attached a one-page summary of [Child]'s progress to give you a head start. Please come with your honest thoughts, this is [Child]'s plan, and your voice matters most.”

Tips

Send the summary 48 hours before, parents need processing time
Ask what they want to discuss, not just your agenda
End with ‘what questions do you have?’, not ‘any questions?’

Avoid: Don't read the EHCP aloud in the meeting, parents can read. Use the time for dialogue, not dictation.

The Transition Update

Transition

A child is moving to secondary school. The parent is anxious about whether provision will continue.

Suggested starting point

“I know transitions can feel uncertain, so I want to be completely transparent about what's happening. I've met with [Receiving SENCO Name] at [Secondary School], and we've gone through [Child]'s file together. They're confident they can deliver [specific provision], and they've asked me to share their direct contact details with you. I've also arranged for [Child] to visit twice before September, once with you, once with their new TA. Here's the transition plan in writing, and my mobile if anything worries you over the summer.”

Tips

Name the receiving SENCO, it makes them real, not abstract
Give parents direct contact details, it reduces anxiety
Offer your mobile for summer, it costs nothing, builds trust everything

Avoid: Don't say “the secondary school will handle it” or “they'll be fine.” Parents need evidence, not reassurance.

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